Our Pod: Your Pod
Some of you are aware of the couples group that Brian and I have been a part of for 11 years. We call ourselves "Our Pod."
"Pods" generally refer to a group of dolphins, whales, narwals or other marine life, who tend to hang out together, swim, hold counsel, plan fishing trips etc.
We call ourselves a pod too, and even though we are not of the sea, we do a lot of the same thing dolphins do except maybe the fishing outings. Ever since we conceived of the Exceptional Marriage (EMM) Work, Brian and I have been meeting with what started out as four couples, now up to seven, who meet every month of the year for a full day to help one another with personal issues, stuff that comes up between us, and of course to help each other with the day to day relationship struggles we all go through. Our first pod gathered almost 11 years ago, after three couples went through the first ever Exceptional Marriage Mentor Training . These original pioneer couples went through our training, and came away excited that they were embarking on a new path that would both help their own relationship and was a vehicle to help other couples.
Being in a pod is amazing, sometimes hard, scary, funny, edgy, and always worth it. I don't know of any other couple's group who has stayed together this long in these varied capacities and roles with one another.
So, what do you call your dearest friends who meet together for dinners and holidays, who hang out with each other's kids, and who encourage you to scream and cry, who hold you in their arms, who help you when you're stuck in one of your downward spiral cycles with your partner, who tell you they hate you and love you, and all the while maintain their willingness to sort things out with you? In this life, I doubt I will ever know deeper friendship than that. This chosen family, these friends, these couples are carved into my heart forever. I have few other friends where relationship runs so deep.
Many couples have asked us how to form a pod. An EMM pod is a group which gathers together to help one another using body, mind and spirit centered Core Energetics and EMM techniques. If you want to start or be in your own pod, a couple from our "seed-pod" can provide leadership while your new pod takes root. After that, a pod consultant (pod-sultant) can be brought in as needed if or when the group gets stuck. If you've done the EMM training or completed several of our couples weekend intensives you can organize a pod by speaking with us. Even if you are not in our geographic area, we can consult and provide leadership via Skype. In fact, we are so excited to be working with a pod that is centered in California using internet conferencing!
In Mexico City, there is a wonderful EMM pod made up of three couples. They meet for two days and spend 50% of the time on "processing emotional stuff" and 50% on FUN activities! (We have lots to learn from our Southern neighbors!)
If starting a pod sounds enticing to you, let us know.